Just wondering ...

When do you give up on someone you're dating? Where's the line? Not the first time he disappoints you, or even the second. But what about the third, the fourth, the fifth?

I disappointed the last guy I loved constantly. It wasn't intentional - I happened to be emotionally bereft at the time, I could barely function, let alone be conscious of another person's needs. But I let him down again and again. He gave me five months of chances, and then one day, he drew the line. And that was it. Done.

Sometimes I wish I had that kind of rigid self-discipline. I've never been good at cutting things off ... I'm a benefit-of-the-doubt kinda girl. But I'm in a place in my life where I just don't want to put up with bullshit (if you're asking "Is there ever a time in your life when you put up with bullshit?" the answer is HELL yes. High school and college.)

The irony I can't get over is that I'm probably the least demanding, least needy, least high-maintenance I've ever been. In fact, my baseline requirements for men I date are pretty freaking simple: do what you say you're going to do, when you say you're going to do it, and be cognizant of how your behavior may affect my feelings. In other words, just be considerate. Seriously, is that really so damn difficult?

In my head I keep thinking "Wow. I cannot believe he's fucking this up."

Marriage Abuse

Kim Karshaisan and Kris Humphries file for divorce after 72 days. When I hear stories like this it gives me the same feeling as hearing about teenagers using abortion as birth control. I think there’s a tremendous lack of responsibility here. I don’t know their hearts or the details of their relationship but unless there was physical / emotional abuse, 72 days is not a marriage. It’s a summer fling. I don’t care if they went straight in couples counseling right after the honeymoon, 72 days is not enough to say you worked on your marriage. I believe they abused the ritual, one I hold precious and valuable, one I am protective of because one day, if I have children, I want them to experience the kind of love that can only be had with hard work and a fierce commitment. I don’t want them to see marriage as a transition, a phase, or a coin toss which is what it seems to be these days. I think too many quit early. I think people don’t understand that healthy relationships are earned not given, and that chemistry alone is not enough to break your vows. I believe we shouldn’t end a marriage until both have done everything in their power to save it. But then again, the average person doesn’t profit 15 million dollars from media / endorsements when they get married.

-Angry-

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